Every now and then, I sit down and reflect on the things that I have discovered, and how much I have changed.
The last time I did that, I focused a bit more on what Stoicism has taught me, and what I discovered about myself.
I discovered that just because I laid plans to do something, it doesn’t necessarily mean it will happen. And that if it doesn’t, there isn’t much I can do about it, so it isn’t worth worrying about.
I learned that what someone says about me, or to me, doesn’t matter as much as what my response is.
I learned that my son will do things that four year olds do and that getting upset about it isn’t going to help him learn or grow.
Tying in with this is that people will say all sorts of things. Some I may agree with, some I may want to get upset about, and even things that are meant to cause offence. How I respond to them is up to me.
I also learned that things don’t always go to plan. While it may seem like a good idea to get all upset about it, the best thing to do is to say, “Ahh well” and get on with things.
(Take the few days that I wasn’t able to publish a post on here, for example).
Finally, one of the most important things that I have learned through this is that if you don’t pay attention to what other people say or do, it is not possible for them to bully or harass you.